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Divorce isn’t like what’s in the movies

On behalf of North Tampa Legal Group posted in divorce on Saturday, February 24, 2018.

The cinema, as entertaining as it may be, isn’t always known for accuracy. Because of time constraints in film, sometimes major life issues and milestones are generalized or wrapped up more easily than in real life. Depictions of divorce are no different, but a person going through a marital breakup in real life likely knows that the actual experience of ending a marriage can be quite different than in the movies. For those about to enter the divorce process in Florida, they may be relieved to know that divorce isn’t as debilitating or dramatic as what is seen on film.

First, divorce doesn’t necessarily break a person. An individual may face some period of transition or even grief at the end of a marriage, but the change doesn’t mean that the person will never be happy again. It is possible for two people to grow apart over time, and the breakup may be a much-needed relief for both parties. A person may find him or herself moving toward growth after the end of a marriage.

Some movie plots also indicate that a couple should stay together for the sake of the children. This isn’t necessarily true, because children are very adaptable. An environment that supports the happiness of the children and the parent is better than an environment filled with conflicts, arguing or stony silence. During a movie divorce, usually one party is clearly at fault. In real life, this is less often the case, as each person plays a role in the dissolution of the marriage, and each person may have valid reasons for wanting to move on.

It’s probably a good thing that real life isn’t like the movies. For serious matters like divorce, it may be better to take a more balanced view. A successful divorce depends on many factors, like deciding on child custody, support payments and division of assets. An individual does not have to work on all these details alone. In Florida, many choose to do so with the help of an experienced family law attorney.

Source:, “Five Things Movies Get Wrong About Divorce”, Feb. 20, 2018